Don't make it hard.

𝙄 𝙪𝙨𝙚𝙙 𝙩𝙤 𝙗𝙚 𝙤𝙗𝙨𝙚𝙨𝙨𝙚𝙙 𝙬𝙞𝙩𝙝 𝙗𝙚𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙗𝙚𝙨𝙩.

If I didn’t know how to do something or it didn’t come naturally to me, I would obsess over it and focus on getting better at that thing.

What I know now is that I wasted so much valuable energy focusing on things that didn’t bring me joy because I so badly wanted to improve that I would exhaust myself over it instead of really leaning in to my natural gifts.

That ended in 2020.

I had a major shift and to the people who knew me before, I probably look like a completely different person.

To some, I’ve “changed” when in reality, I’ve just allowed myself to settle into the person I’ve always been; the person I’ve always wanted to be, but was somehow afraid that person wouldn’t be good enough.

What actually happened?

👧 My relationships with my children improved.

👑 I learned to appreciate my body for the incredible vessel it is.

My husband got an upgraded version of me. 💁🏼‍♀️

💫 My TRIBE has shown up, as if by magic. [9/19/2025 update: I have long since been educated that use of the word “tribe” by non-Native people is offensive and have removed it from my vocabulary. We, as in, non-Native folks, have traditionally used the word “tribe” to describe a group that we belong to and resonate heavily with; some issues with this usage are: 1) It erases the cultural significance of actual tribes and 2) It makes something that actual tribes have traditionally been punished for (being Native Peoples) a cutesy thing that is okay for us, but not okay for them.]

I stopped trying to figure out what would work and I hired someone who gave me permission to just BE and my gifts began to pour out of me 🤯

I’m not for everyone and it took me a long time to be okay with that.

I’ve always been a people pleaser. I’ve always craved adoration.

But what I crave now is to only surround myself with those who genuinely want to be here; who I don’t have to know and be all the things in order to keep them interested.

What I’ve realized is that by just showing up as exactly the person I am naturally, I have the ability to reach people who normally would never have been interested in the things I am JUST because they actually like me - and it’s easy.

There’s no preparation involved in being authentic.

You just keep showing up and the people who don’t like it usually just go away, but the ones who stay... the ones who show up... those are your people.

And it’s easy.

𝗗𝗼𝗻’𝘁 𝗺𝗮𝗸𝗲 𝗶𝘁 𝗵𝗮𝗿𝗱.